Having Your Cake and Eating it Too
Transitioning genders, contrary to what some may believe, is NOT a choice. When it comes right down to it, why would anyone choose to upset the entirety of their lives in so doing? So then if I am saying this is NOT a choice, then why do it? Well, the reason is really as starkly simple as it is complex.....it is because the choice NOT to transition would result in greater pain and in many cases, as in my own, a likely slow, cancerous demise and a spiraling dance downwards until death. I would never choose to see my spouse watching her husband "die" before her eyes as the vision of "he" becomes slowly and steadily "she". I would not willingly wish to risk my job, my friends, and the potential loss of acceptance by those around me simply to fulfill some fantastic notion or desire. I would not choose in an often hidden yet silently misogynistic society still known in many circles as "a man's world" to "become" a woman and to str