Mirages of the Mind
Many times, people see us as they first came to know us. An example of this happened today when I stopped in at my skincare aesthetician. They first came to know me as male years ago when I first started going there for treatments. I was known by my male name and the pronouns were always "he, Him, and His". About a year ago I showed up in full on girl mode after announcing just prior that I was transgender. There was no problem in pronoun switches to the feminine when I did show up in this manner and "She" and "Her" along with my name being used as Christen were the rule. Today, I showed up in what I like to call my "twilight zone" mode. It's a gender neutral sort of mode in which I wear no makeup and usually don just a women's polo shirt in either blues, or blacks and a pair of casual, relatively neutral women's jeans. Interestingly, when I arrived for my appointment the pronouns were "He" and "His" and m