tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post6827430552851324560..comments2023-08-19T07:31:00.724-04:00Comments on The Woman Within: Clarifications and CongruencyChristenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06095009678153723490noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post-82743161552674806432012-04-30T08:31:26.398-04:002012-04-30T08:31:26.398-04:00My experience of meeting and dealing with women in...My experience of meeting and dealing with women in shops in the UK when 'en femme' is that provided I was dressed as a normal woman, ie, wearing clothes and make-up appropriate to my age, height, body shape, etc then without exception they've all been kind, understanding and helpful. One even said she'd open up her shop just for me on her closing day - and she did. <br />I think they translated my presentation as me wanting to be like them.. If I'd sashayed around in thigh boots and mini skirt etc etc then I think they would have interpreted & rejected my 'femininity' as a caricature. The message is clearly dress like a woman in the real world and it's fine. <br />GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post-4819482084053281792011-12-17T07:13:57.006-05:002011-12-17T07:13:57.006-05:00ps the best part of coming out to so many who know...ps the best part of coming out to so many who know me is that i no longer feel like i am hiding a secret. i can just be me. even in male mode i can ask those gg's who know where they bought that whatever (clothing, jewlery ect.)Diana Nicole Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16319421620972867830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post-67841886855622628222011-12-17T07:08:55.638-05:002011-12-17T07:08:55.638-05:00over the course of the last year i have come to th...over the course of the last year i have come to the same conclusion as you have written about in this entry. that although i say i am not planning on transitioning there are many parts of me that have evolved from wearing a pale pink nail polish even as my male self to having had my ears pierced and wearing pink safire earing studs most of the time even in male mode. as well as polish on the toenails and shaved legs year round. even to the extent of shaping my eyebrows. it has all become much more maintenance. the interesting thing is that no one around me seems to care!<br /><br /> it feels as if i have both a fem and male soul living side by side within and the fem one is allways nudging for more time and space. <br />many years ago i asked myself if i had a magic wand would i use it and the answer was no for i feared not being able to change back to male mode so i know i will always be on the fence.<br /><br /> the whole world is constantly evolving whether it wants to or not and most of it doesn't have the trans challenges to deal with. so just remember it is one day at a time on each persons own terms not allowing ones self to be pushed anywere even by the professionals. only we ourselves know the answer within.Diana Nicole Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16319421620972867830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post-75692316428382356452011-12-07T08:08:35.855-05:002011-12-07T08:08:35.855-05:00In my own experiences, I hear a lot of echoes of w...In my own experiences, I hear a lot of echoes of what you feel inside, the opening up, the genuine unease being male and the shyness and lack of friends or even a romantic interlude. In your perspective I see exactly what I was and to some extent still fight internally over. But before I had so few friends and the feelings of inadequacy heaped on top like mashed potatoes on top of a little bit of limp roast beef, the change is now, that I have come to take Samantha out of a realm of fantasy and dream and into reality I change my perspective as I change my wardrobe.<br /><br />I find a lot of times I look for more androgynous clothes, I take more time in the bathroom getting ready, even just to go to work, moisturizing, vaporizing as best I can facial hair and looking at myself as Samantha. Samantha has possibilities I never imagined she would have. Years ago she was just a fantasy. But her presence was too much and she developed into a real woman right before my eyes. And I was not ashamed.<br /><br />I see that in you, dear Christen, a woman who exudes the confidence that comes from letting your inner angel shine out and let the perceived notion of who you used to be get eclipsed by the beauty you have inside you. You helped me to realize who I could be. I bet that on that cold January evening years ago now, we'd never have connected the way we have. The truth is that we both had directions we needed to move in and, for me, looking at someone as outgoing and affirming as you just helped boost my self-confidence and realization that I could be Samantha after all.<br /><br />So, though your advancement and changes are you doing what you need to do, you are also helping show us the way isn't as dark and scary as it could be.<br /><br />Thanks sister for being one of my best friends in the whole Universe!!Samantha Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07591063838756584115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6724988320872415899.post-24487528595872668352011-12-02T15:53:00.767-05:002011-12-02T15:53:00.767-05:00I do see similarities in me as you describe yourse...I do see similarities in me as you describe yourself!!Except that you have moved forward to BE who you want where I'm still unsure I can move forward. If that makes any sense at all...BUT-- absolutely YES the evening I was watching you interact with people you were the center of attention!!!you're very charming and an intelligent person with humor worth being friends with!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com